This is the time of year when many of us find ourselves stressed and dealing with people who push our buttons whether on purpose or by accident.
Buttons are those areas that when touched on by someone in the course of communication, make us react. Some are bigger buttons than others but everyone has them and we all need tools for handling the communication when those buttons are approached or pushed.
I have come up with 10 Super Simple Tools you can use at a moment’s notice that will put you in control of these situations when they occur. Take these tools and practice with them. Then put them into your communication tool belt and go have some fun!
1. Understand that your buttons are your buttons.
2. Learn to steer the conversation away from sensitive subjects or areas.
3. Educate the people close to you what your buttons are and find out theirs.
4. If something has really upset you, go somewhere quiet and regroup.
5. Understand that a person’s hurtful comments have nothing to do with you.
6. Understand that certain relationships have buttons in common and need extra care and consideration.
7. Recognize that another’s behavior may be the result of limiting beliefs, prejudices, opinions and generalizations.
8. Stay away from the universal buttons!
Do not invalidate a person or his or her beliefs and do not allow someone to invalidate yours.
Do not tell a person what to think about himself or herself and do not allow someone to do that to you.
When a person says something to you, don’t ignore them.
Do not interrupt people when they are talking.
9. Understand that communication is one of the most misunderstood subjects on the planet.
10. Know that life is full of both good and bad experiences and each is part of the learning curve of life.
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